The things other people are going to do and say and think, you can’t be responsible for them. But your actions, your words, your thoughts: These things you are responsible for, always.

"The things other people are going to do and say and think, you can’t be responsible for them. Only when you force someone else to do something against their will: That’s when you’re responsible for their actions. But there are so few cases in the world when you can really do that. But your actions, your words, your thoughts: These things you are responsible for, always."

~ Thanissaro Bhikkhu "Mental Balance"

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