You can’t be responsible for other people’s actions. In other words, you can’t go through life making other people happy. You give a good example to others and if they’re willing to follow the example, that’s how they become happy.

"You can’t be responsible for other people’s actions. In other words, you can’t go through life making other people happy, because their happiness will depend on what they do. So, you focus on where you are responsible, on your own actions, and in that way, you give a good example to others. If they’re willing to follow the example, that’s how they become happy."

~ Thanissaro Bhikkhu "Good Heart, Good Mind: The Practice of the Ten Perfections"

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