If you ever want to straighten anything out, well, you’ve got your heart here that needs straightening out first. And so focus right here — because this is where you really can do the work.

"When you see other people acting on their unskillful mind states, it gives you a chance to see what you look like when you act on yours. It’s not a pretty sight. For example, we all have a tendency to want to straighten other people out. We want this person to be that way and that person to be this way. But when other people try to straighten you out, how do you feel? The Thais call this putting other people’s heart in your heart, and your heart in theirs: in other words, realizing that what you feel is what other people feel. If you ever want to straighten anything out, well, you’ve got your heart here that needs straightening out first. And so focus right here — because this is where you really can do the work."

~ Thanissaro Bhikkhu "Bodies & Minds Outside"

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